Fatherhood is a profound journey that changes a man’s life in countless ways. For Samuel Chandool Jr., the past two years of being a father have brought significant transformations, challenges, and unforgettable moments.
Samuel and his daughter, Genevieve
Samuel describes fatherhood as a life-changing experience that has given his life more meaning and purpose.
Becoming a father has made me more cautious of my actions. I want to do everything possible to make the world a better place. You start to analyse every aspect of your life to ensure you’re doing the right thing.
This heightened sense of responsibility and purpose is a common theme among new fathers as they navigate their new roles and strive to be the best version of themselves for their children.
SURPRISES AND UNEXPECTED MOMENTS
The first year of fatherhood is filled with surprises. For Samuel, one of the most memorable moments was when his daughter called out for him during a playground altercation.
A child took her toy away, and she immediately yelled for Daddy. It was a powerful moment, realising how much this little human counts on you for protection.
Little Genevieve
BALANCING WORK AND FATHERHOOD
Furthermore, many new fathers face the challenge of balancing work and personal life. Samuel admits it has been a struggle but has taken steps to ensure his business can run smoothly without his full-time supervision.
I’ve had to restructure my entire business and put measures in place so it can operate smoothly without my constant oversight.
This shift allows him to spend more quality time with his daughter and be present in her life.
OVERCOMING CHALLENGES
Moreover, fatherhood comes with its own set of challenges, particularly around maintaining mental health.
This businessman shared that it can be hectic and overwhelming, but he’s learned to set aside his stresses to be there for his daughter.
He also discusses the cultural challenges of allowing his daughter to express herself freely despite criticism from more traditional viewpoints.
One time, my daughter was dancing at a party, and someone said, ‘Oh, she’s going to give you a lot of trouble when she grows up.’ That motivated me even more to let her be herself.
ADVICE FOR NEW FATHERS
Samuel advises new fathers to be as involved as possible in their child’s life.
Take every opportunity to be there and enjoy the moment. Time passes quickly, and before you know it, your baby will have grown up.
PARENTING AS A PARTNERSHIP
Navigating the challenges of parenting with a partner requires understanding and shared responsibility.
Samuel and his family
We had to understand that we are in this together and that nobody is perfect.
He emphasised the importance of both parents playing equal roles in their child’s life to avoid placing the strain on one person.
PERSONAL GROWTH THROUGH FATHERHOOD
Besides, fatherhood has profoundly changed Samuel’s outlook on life and his actions. He constantly assesses his decisions to ensure they contribute positively to the world his daughter will grow up in.
His hope for her future is simple yet profound:
I hope she grows up to live a fulfilling life where she is confident in her own skin.
CELEBRATING FATHER’S DAY
For Samuel, Father’s Day is not just about celebration but also reflection.
Being a father is a great privilege, and I don’t necessarily need a day for that.
However, he relayed to Things Guyana his plans to spend a relaxing day in Essequibo with his family, cherishing the bond they share.
THE REWARDS OF FATHERHOOD
The most rewarding aspect of fatherhood for Samuel is bonding with his daughter and discovering new things together.
It’s always a rewarding feeling to see a little human discovering new things.
This bond is something he treasures deeply.
While his daughter is still too young to understand complex life lessons, Samuel focuses on teaching her the basics, like saying “please” and “thank you.”
INFLUENCING OTHER RELATIONSHIPS
Fatherhood has also influenced Samuel’s relationships with family, friends, and colleagues. He finds himself relating more to other parents and has built stronger bonds with family members.
Being a father has definitely caused a shift for me in my circle.
Looking back, Samuel wishes he could have reassured his past self that everything would be okay.
All the anxiety and worry I had over the birth of my child was irrelevant and uncalled for.
